Rest & Recovery

We live in a fast-paced generation where everything occurs in the blink of an eye and taking a moment to “stop and smell the roses” seems like a thing of the past. Now, imagine yourself in the hustle of one of the busiest cities in the world, New York, where if you don’t move fast enough, you get left behind. Whether you’re a bride-to-be, juggling your day job and your newly acquired title of wedding planner or you’re a college student balancing 20 credits and a part-time job - you will need a moment to hit that pause button. Outside of my 9-hour day and a three-hour commute, the rest of the time once at home, I get to work with my incredible clients. Once the weekend rolls around, it is filled with gigs, errands, church and quality time with friends and family. In all the madness, you cannot help but want to put it all on PAUSE so you can rest your mind and body.

Rest and Recovery is a key part of living a healthy balanced life and something I’m trying to teach myself to do routinely. Without rest, we can't perform to our maximum capacity and to the best of our abilities, which then reflect the quality of work we put out. I'm definitely not a scientist or medical genius, but life and lots of research have been great teachers in giving me insight into what we need to function as the best versions of ourselves.

Rest = A Better Immune System

When you are excessively working out, your immune system is working in overdrive, which is why you'll find a lot of personal trainers and weight loss programs recommend having days for rest. The same idea can be applied in your day to day life. Along with overworking yourself, there is also a threat to your immune system. When you're overworked, not only are you exerting energy with every train you run to or new centerpiece you create, your brain is in overdrive thinking of the next three things you need to do. As a result of this, your stress and emotional levels increase as well. When you make and implement a routine, you should try and schedule blocks to get the relaxation you need. You should give yourself time to unwind and process all the other internal needs your body requires of you. Rest means you are giving time for your body to build up its walls and fight off any toxins that try to enter your body and mind.

Rest = Better Mental Health

On the opposite side of the spectrum, we have moments when our mind completely shuts off. If you can try and remember cramming for finals week, you could think of an instance when your brain completely abandoned you (due to your procrastination) and you were stuck on a question during your exam. Your brain had worked so hard remembering all the material, but somehow forgot an answer to a question that you definitely thought you knew! Overworked minds will eventually lead to a lack of motivation, lack of creative juices flowing and let's be honest, an overall cranky human being. We have to make sure we take the time daily to intentionally turn our minds off. In return, we will feel better and our productivity levels will increase.

Sleep = Better Everything!!

In a nutshell, poor time management skills result in less sleep for you. I can sit here and ramble off a million studies that say more sleep equals better memory, more energy, sharper focus, healthier bodies, lower stress and the list could go on. Of course, it's hard to make sure we get the minimum 7-8 hours of sleep that is recommended, but you should make a conscious effort to be in bed by 11pm during the weekdays. According to NASA, military pilots and astronauts who took scheduled 40-minute naps increased performance by 34% and alertness by 100%. If it can work for them up there, I think it might just work for us down here.

Now, that was a lot of ramble on rest and sleep but how can we practically apply these changes to our lives? With anything, if we try to make a million changes at once, we're most likely going to fail. It's important to start with small changes and build it to be a lifestyle choice. When you're at the gym or commuting to work, think about your to-do list for the day and how to best tackle it so you get everything done earlier and more efficiently; this may free up time in your day that you didn’t know you had as well as give you a mental break from work-related things. Set routine time blocks, starting with a few hours, until it turns into a whole day of rest. Examples of “rest” can be yoga, adult coloring pages or even binge-watching all the latest episodes of American Idol. Whatever your rest may look like, I hope you are able to prioritize it. I'm happy to talk and brainstorm different rest and relaxation ideas.

Signing off for now,

Iris

Three Things to Look For in a Photographer

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When you start planning an event, one of the biggest things that sometimes slips off of your priority list- is your photographer. While you can taste the food, see your florals and arrange your decorations, you can't exactly do the same for a photographer. They capture moments that last when we grow old and our memory fades. It's your first kiss after saying "I do" or the moment when you get surprised at your baby shower. Here are the top three things to focus on when  trying to pick your photographer. 

1. Photography Style 

What are you trying to capture? - is your focus standard portraits, posed pictures or a documentary style that captures all the candid spontaneous moments? Are you looking for artsy pictures or something that screams uniqueness? It's crucial to go through your photographer's portfolio which will give you a taste of their work. If you are looking for a wedding photographer, I would strongly recommend doing your engagement shoot with them. That will give you insight into what you can expect on the day of and the picture quality. 

2. Personality 

Your photographer should understand you, what you're vision is and what your journey is all about. I had a bride once who got stuck with a different photographer than promised, and boy was it a nightmare! What was supposed to be her happiest day ended up being a little less special due to the photographer's grumpy attitude and hard to work with nature. You should be able to grab a drink with your photographer if you wanted to and have a laugh. The key is that the person is excited for you and excited to be a part of this journey. Your photographer should understand your culture and social cues - being respectful while being graciously authoritative to capture that one photo they know you'd die for.

3. Price 

Many people think this should be number one and of course I understand why; but if you focus so much on getting the lowest cost possible, the result may be getting low quality pictures. When working with a photographer don't feel nervous to negotiate or ask to add an extra album to make the cost worth it. Does the package have everything you need? Will the quality be exceptional? Always be open with your photographer to ensure transparency and maximum benefits; you can't expect anyone to be able to read your mind or predict what it is you really need. Once you confirm details be sure to get an itemized list including post event production timing. You never want the photographer to ghost you for a few months post event. An additional note to consider is to always ask about photo rights - many times photographers claim to have rights on pictures they capture leaving you with limited capabilities and extra expenses when need arises to use the photo. 

Making these decisions sometimes feel daunting but just call them and get a sense of their personality; then do what everyone does best now a days and stalk their work. May the force be ever in your favor and if the decision gets too tough to make, grab the faithful pen and paper and make a pro & con list. 

 

Signing off for now,

Iris